Unconditional Love is Easier Said Than Done

There was a time in my life when I became afraid to fall in love again. Because every time I fell in love, I got hurt.

I would give my all, loving deeply and wholeheartedly. It would be a truly emotional, euphoric experience.

I would be dreaming about the object of my affection all day and all night, imagining good times together, thinking of what I can do or buy for him to show how much I care.I would feel as light as a feather, energized and excited, literally blooming with the joy I feel inside.

And at times when things would go wrong, my whole world would crash.

Disappointment, Resentment, Anger, Pain is what I would feel next.

Why? Can we not love without getting hurt? Do we really have to pay the price for all the happiness we feel inside when we are in love? Should we just accept that because we love, we risk getting hurt?

It was only after many years of soul-searching and reading inspirational writings that I realized that we could actually love without getting hurt. And only recently did I understand what unconditional love is all about.

Love is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. It is the fire that burns inside, the essence of being. Love is the source of all our comfort and contentment. It is a precious gift that defines our purpose in life.

If we keep in mind that we can indeed preserve its true meaning, we can love to the fullest and be happy for the rest of our lives.

Accept that other people express love differently. How do you express love? Is it by saying “I Love You” three times a day, by kissing and embracing as often as you can? By never forgetting anniversaries? Always preparing his favorite dishes?

How does he express his love? He rarely says “I Love You”, he seldom kisses you, he forgets your birthday, and he does not know how to cook. But he always make sure every time you go out together he has something that you can spend to watch movies, eat out, and shop, because he worked for it.

He probably loves you more than you can imagine, he just shows it differently and not in the way you want it to be. If you can accept that, then you will have a healthier perspective of your relationship.

You can derive happiness from giving love. When you love, do it because you want to. There is an indescribable joy in loving. Just give it. And find happiness in having given someone something of yourself.

It is like giving a gift - - whether it is appreciated or not. Because you don’t find joy when you demand something in return for the love you give. You will just be setting yourself up for disappointment because,

Remember, LOVE is not always reciprocated.

Love between two people can never be of the same intensity at the same time and place. No matter how much your partner loves you, he will never be able to fill all your needs all the time. And you will be in the worst situation if you believe you should love only when you are sure to receive equal love in return. You will be waiting in misery forever. Love now. And lower your expectations.

The past is gone and the future is just but a dream. All of yesterday's aches and pains, as well as all the love and laughter, are mere memories. Let them go. Fantasies and worries are for future that may never come.

Don't dwell on them. Live now. Give love now. Do it now and enjoy it now. That is the secret of genuine contentment. Throw away these destructive habits.

When you insist upon yourself that you always have to be in control, that you always have to be right, that others must always please you, then you are only putting yourself in a very tight spot.

Loving relationships are flexible, dynamic, and evolving. Leave room for change and interaction. Allow for new behavior and learning experiences even if they hurt.

Then if we welcome these into our lives, we open ourselves to sharing more love and affection and to less frustration and pain. Surely, unconditional love is easier said than done. I agree. Especially when we have always believed that love is supposed to be “give and take”. But, try believing that love is simply giving. And you will be surprised that in the future, a lot of it would come back to you in ways you least expected.