SUPERDHY

Trust in relationships is vital. It evolves over time. Once gone, it takes longer and it’s harder to rebuild than to gain it in the first place. Lost trust creates a lot of long-term damage in any relationship. Falling in love is easy - becoming infatuated doesn’t require any skills. However, staying in love throughout all the relationship stages requires good communication skills, emotional intelligence and trust. Trust in relationships is the central, supporting pillar of creating intimacy and maintaining a deep, fulfilling connection with your partner. Learn here how trust shapes your intimacy, the effects of unfair fighting, unfinished issues from the past and infidelity, and real solutions to restoring broken trust. Trust in Relationships Fosters Intimacy You’ve probably heard that intimacy is present only when there is trust. It’s true. As intima...

Reassuring the woman who lights up your life is very important in a relationship. Here are tips to make it a success: 1) If she works often on the computer then change the screen saver with thoughtful messages like “You Light My Life” “I Am Incomplete Without You” “You’re The Best Thing That Has Happened To Me” 2) Stick post-it notes which have love messages on her steering wheel when she is on her way to work. 3) Send her “I Love You” emails sometime in the day so that it brightens up her mood. 4) Try writing a poem for her even if you have never tried it. Women really like thoughtful messages and poems. 5) Surprise her with a gift or tickets to a concert she enjoys the most. 6) Go for a walk, holding hands and then stop for coffee at a quiet place. 7) Join her in a shopping spree. 8) Give her a rose for every year you have known her. 9) Bake fortune cookies or get them from the store. Make sure they have “I Love You” messages inside. It wil...

1) Do I look Fat? – Women are conscious of their bodies, well at least most of them are and this gets more noticeable when on a shopping spree. They already know their body type but they will still ask their partner. So it is best that you don’t agree that she is fat. You can use some loving adjective and make her face glow with happiness. 2) Do We Have To Visit Your Parents? – Well, it’s best you do. There will come a time when she will be meeting your parents. So it is a good way to maintain the balance. 3) Do I Have To Like Your Friends? – Coming between her and her friends may be at the top of your fantasy list but if you are too honest there will be trouble in paradise. 4) We Should Go Dutch? – Even she suggests this, don’t fall for it. It might be great for you but who matters most in this relationship? Love or money? She looks gorgeous and loves you for a long time. So you pay for the treats. 5) Is This Safe? – As a man you are very concerned when...

All men deeply feel that his woman should trust him implicitly. Often some wonder why is it so difficult for their women to do something so seemingly simple such as trusting their word. The answer stems from the physiological differences between the sexes.   It all starts at birth when little boys are given a distinct physical advantage over little girls by having higher levels of testosterone comes the physical strength to both defend themselves from danger and/ or run away from a threat. Many little girls don’t have the ability. They don’t have the strength to defend themselves in a physical fight when they feel threatened. If a boy trusts someone who in turn hurts them, they can always defend themselves physically or at least try to.     Since a person can only trust from a position of strength, those same little girls will grow up into women who naturally have a more difficult time “trusting” they feel vulnerable. This is one of the reasons that ev...

Men always want to know what women really want. So do women, they too want to know what men really think and mean. Here are some insights to what men really think, feel and their reactions in most common everyday situations in life. 1) Men have a habit to pretend that they are listening to their girlfriend or partner. If he lets you think that he is giving you his full attention then you will be expecting an answer. If you have been talking to him while he is watching his TV program, then if he responds then he will be giving you a clear message that it is okay to interrupt his program. He may also feel that if he gives you a detailed response then you will continue with the conversation. So if he pretends that he is listening then it is a sure shot way to keep you content and you will leave the room, satisfied.  2) Men looking at other women don’t always mean that they are going to leave you for someone else. A passing glance is quite normal. 3) Men too ...

There are no fixed formula to manage, balance and sustain relationships. But we have to try our best to keep one. Changing or moving from one partner to another may seem fun in the beginning but such relationships have no depth and understanding. They are termed mostly as “one-night stands” or “no strings attached” relationships. To be in a true relationship, there are real emotions involved and managing that needs work.   The best way to start the foundation of a good relationship is to be truthful. Frankness leads to prosperity as you will face less problems. Being honest about what you want is the best way to start influencing your relationship. Leaving no room for guess work, allows emotional security to your partner. Manipulation comes in the way of those who don’t know what they are looking for in their relationship. This only complicates the matter and leaves room for conflicts. A  relationship is a partnership between two people. So you need to kn...

If the woman you are dating is also your best buddy then you need to know how to balance it and yet bring out the romance. Here are some tips to spice up this new level in your friendship 1) Learn to be a little more attentive to her needs. When walking, offer her your arm, open doors for her, pull out a chair, gaze into her eyes and see how she blushes. Compliment her. 2) Since she is no longer a buddy but on the lines of a girlfriend, be flirtatious. Break the touch barrier as you have offering your arm to her. The key is to touch her consciously so it promotes positive thoughts in her. 3) Find ways to date her by proceeding in a covert way. A date is essentially a relationship interview, a chance to put forth your best traits and get the attention of the opposite sex in a delicate but a pleasing manner. So take up an activity or hobby that you both enjoy. This allows the both of you to spend some exclusive time and she may notice something in you th...

Here is a guide to help you make up your mind if you are in a relationship for the wrong reasons: 1) Do you put him on a pedestal? If you find it difficult to see any negative traits whatsoever in your partner, you are romanticizing him. Nobody is without faults and if you refuse to see his, you are not in a real relationship-you are living in fantasyland. Think Again : You are romanticizing him because you don’t want to face uncomfortable truths which might put the relationship in danger. When you acknowledge his negative traits, it means he has the right to focus on yours. But in any meaningful relationship, it’s essential you are honest with each other, before you commit. Notice how you feel when you are with him-whenever you are hurt, confused, or worried by his words or behaviour, then you will know it is time to speak up. 2) Do You Obsess? At the start of a relationship, it’s pretty normal to read a complex novel into a text message, or to pick apart everythi...

Sometimes, people might scoff at the suggestion of couples counseling for conflict resolution. In many circles, counseling has a stigma attached to it. Attending counselling means admitting that things in your relationship need to be improved upon. On the surface, it seems that counseling for couples is best for those teetering on the verge of divorce, not for those who might have only a few problems. However, if you wait too long before identifying a problem in your relationship, it can fester and burst. If you think you've hit a rocky patch in your relationship, counseling might help you and your loved one make it to the next stage of your relationship. How's Communication? The number-one sign you may need to see a counselor is that communication between you and your loved one is strained. How do you feel when you talk to your partner? Do you feel as if the conversation is exciting, or do you feel as if you are talking to a brick wall? Do you feel sat...

Someone who's married asked me if I can give her tips for long lasting marriage. Well, I am not yet married so it's not an easy task for me since it will not be a first-hand experience that I can share. So I asked help, to the first people I felt in love: my parents. Divorce rates are racing the matrimonial charts across continents. The reasons are many but resolutions taken are none. So Superdhy created his concoction of things which I feel (reiterating "I") we all need to add in our relationships. I asked my mother on their wedding anniversary as to why until now they are still in love with each other. She then gave me an old little book with the title: "Recipe For A Long Lasting Love", which I remembered having that as a calendar design last 2009. When  I got the chance to open the little book, its format is as if you are following a recipe book and you will be cooking something. And it says: These following proportions should b...

Anyone who has gone through the agony of losing someone she/he loves so much will still wish against all odds to have that love back again. But sometimes, a love lost is a love gone forever. No amount of hope can bring back to life a relationship that just died a natural death. Set your self free. Let your heart spread its wings and fly. Remember, it may rain for 40 days and 40 nights, but still will not rain forever. One day the pouring will stop and there will be plenty of branches where you can find rest. One of these is where you will build your nest and start over again. It's never too late. Remember, you may find love and lose it but "WHEN LOVE DIES, YOU NEVER HAVE TO DIE WITH IT." Remember, you cannot be a redeemer all your life. The best way to weigh a relationship is out it in the test of fire. Remember, we all fall and make wrong decisions but our blunders are meant not to bury us deep in misery but to teach us the valued lessons of life. Lov...

Making a relationship work smoothly is not always easy but it is not impossible. The problem usually arises when one takes the other for granted or have too many expectations. The following 25 tips are guidelines to help you delve into your own relationship and look at the possibilities of improvement. 1) Take time out to spend it in a meaningful way with your partner. Quality time is essential to rekindle your love and romance away from kids, family and friends. 2) Relationship needs security and warmth. This is only possible when each person understands the other and is willing to bend a little to accommodate their needs. 3) Love each other dearly but learn to give each other space. 4) Men are rarely able to express themselves as women do. They need more time alone to sort out their thoughts before expressing them. Understanding their needs helps to maintain harmony and respect. 5) Learn to appreciate...

You truly love your girlfriend but you wonder what is wrong with her sometimes. If you ask her, she only gets defensive about it. Are you lost and confused?   Well, don’t be. It is nothing but pre menstrual syndrome (PMS) which every woman goes through 7-10 days in advance before the onset of her menstruation. Each girl is different and so are her symptoms, some get emotional, others develop a voracious appetite or some have bouts of anger. Here are some helpful pointers to keep in mind so that you can be sensitive to her needs and sustain the love in your relationship. 1) Never Say The Word PMS : All hell will break lose if you say, “Honey, you are suffering from PMS.” It is a very touchy subjective so don’t say it loud. Assuming that her behavior is strictly due to her hormones, it will discount the possibility that her feelings are valid and will therefore only make her angrier.   2) Keep Things Normal: During these days, your girlfriend maybe moody or...

A good relationship is very rewarding because it brings out the best in both the partners. It brings out many positive effects in life. Couples in supportive, loving relationships draw energy and strength from one and another. They live in harmony and have a satisfying life. Good relationship skills can be learnt and the more you practice, the more rewarding you will find your relationship gets with time. What Makes Relationship Loving And Satisfying?     1) Commitment : This is a conscious decision that a relationship is valuable and important and that energy is worth spending to maintain it. Commitment involves feelings of confidence about the relationship and happiness in being known as a couple. It typically becomes more important as a relationship progresses, as agreements are reached and desires to remain together are discussed. 2) Intimacy : It is a willingness to share feelings and desires and be completely open and honest. It i...

The word “Love” sparks a lot of emotions when we think about it. Imagine what happens when one experiences this.   How do people fall in love? This is truly an unsolved mystery.   Some fall in love with the physical appearance, some with the intelligence, while others go for a personality trait. Somewhere there is a spark and a connection is made.   The key to maintain this euphoria is to nurture the newly found bond. Understand the interests, hobbies and goals of each other and appreciate them. Spend time and understand how deeply you would like to go into this relationship.   If you are one of those hardcore romantics who believe in finding a soul mate then I guess you know what you are looking for.

You love your partner but lately you find him or her, constantly nagging over silly things. Before the love vanishes and paves the way for annoyance, it is time you confront the situation with your better half. Here are some tips to handle this sensitive problem. 1) Sit your partner down and discuss the problem. Point it out that you really dislike this nagging habit. If he/she values you and loves you for what you are, then he/she is bound to reduce this nagging habit. It maybe that he/she doesn’t know that they are really doing it.  2) When you are doing the talking, it is important to let her know how you feel but don’t get carried away. Don’t fight, argue or abuse. If you do any of this, you are going to be no better than the nagging partner. 3) Don’t expect magic overnight after discussing the issue. If his/her nagging skills reduce visibly after your talk, then you know that things are getting better. In fact you must compliment him/her that he/...

Disbelievers in love at first sight maybe have to think again because new research shows it only takes half a second to decide if someone is attractive and a potential mate. “The study gets at the basic perceptual aspects in mating,” said psychologist Jon Maner of Florida State University who headed the team. “It shows how quickly, strongly and automatically people are attuned to physical attractiveness whether looking for mates or guarding their mates from potential rivals,” he added in an interview. Maner and his team who published their findings in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, discovered that people tend to fixate on attractive faces within the first half-second of seeing them before sizing them up as a possible mate or rival.   In the study, university students were shown pictures of very attractive or average looking people for one second before being asked to look at something else. By meas...

Sometimes, in our relentless efforts to find the person we love we fail to recognize and appreciate the people who love us. We miss out on so many beautiful things and simply because we allow ourselves to be enslaved by our own selfish concerns. Go for the man of deeds and not for the man of words for you will find rewarding happiness, not with the man you love but the man who loves you more. The best lovers are those capable of loving from a distance far enough to allow the person to grow, but never too far to feel the love deep within your being.   TO LET GO OF SOMEONE DOESN'T MEAN YOU HAVE TO STOP LOVING, IT ONLY MEANS THAT YOU ALLOW THAT PERSON TO FIND HIS OWN HAPPINESS WITHOUT EXPECTING HIM TO COME BACK.   Letting go is not just setting the other person free, but it also setting yourself free from all bitterness, hatred, and anger that keep in your heart. Do not let the bitterness scare away your strength and weaken your faith, and never allow pain...

Improvement is needed in everything we do, whether it is our appearance or even our relationship. Here are some tips to give your relationship a makeover. 1) Decide : You need to decide on three things you would like to improve about your relationship-whether it is more time together, better sex or a commitment to romantic gestures and work out what you both need to do to make that happen. He could come home early once a week and help you make a nice meal. Or you may need to be more specific about your expectations when it comes to housework and divide up the tasks so you are each responsible for different areas. 2) Practice : Learn to say “Sorry.” It doesn’t mean you were wrong, just that you are sorry your partner feels upset. A gentle apology can defuse a brewing argument and lays the groundwork for a calm chat. Of course, it is two-way street, so you must both agree to say sorry when you have hurt each other. 3) Time : In a relationship, time together doesn’t h...

I have browsed through different versions of dictionary to find the word's meaning but then I realized that EXPERIENCE will define the word perfectly... Acceptance means that you can find the serenity within to let go of the past with its mistakes and regrets, move into the future with a new perspective, and appreciate the opportunity to take a second chance. Acceptance means that when difficult times come into your life, you'll find security again and comfort to relieve any pain. You'll find new dreams, fresh hopes, and forgiveness of the heart. Acceptance does not mean that you will always be perfect. It simply means that you'll always overcome imperfection. Acceptance is the road to peace - letting go of the worst, holding on to the best, and finding the hope inside that continues throughout life. Acceptance is the heart's best defense, love's greatest asset, and the easiest way to keep believing in yourself and others.

When we were kids, night times were scary because there were monsters hiding under the bed. When you get older the monsters are different...loneliness, regret. And though you may be older and wiser, you still find yourself scared of the dark. The body is a slave to it's impulses. But the thing that makes us human is what we can control. After the storm, after the rush, after the heat of the moment has passed, we can cool off and clean up the messes we made. We can try to let go of what was. Then again... Sleep... it's the easiest thing to do. You just close your eyes. But for so many of us, sleep seems out of our grasp. We want it but we don't know how to get it. But once we face our demons, face our fears, and turn to each other for help, that time isn't so scary because we realize we aren't all alone in the dark.

" Every relationship has its own ups and downs. It will now depend on the two of you on how will you be firm with what you will do - to let go or to work things out." - EN There can never be any relationship that can claim immunity from failure. People are sometimes torn apart by forces beyond their control. Many of us make promises that we could not keep. We vow to love someone forever only to find ourselves falling for someone else. This attraction can be intense that we become insensitive to needs of others. We resist reasons and insist on passion. Many of us who have been left by a beloved continue to wallow in self-pity, asking what went wrong. We waste our time searching for answers that may never be revealed to us. Why cant we just accept that LOVE doesn't give us the license to own a person, that LOVE doesn't guarantee permanence? There are times when we just have to let go of someone who means the world to us- not be...