SUPERDHY

Being caring, protective of your partner is admirable but sometimes these same emotions become overbearing when they turns into possessiveness. It really chokes your loved one and then all hell breaks lose. If you are a man and the provider of the family, it is good to be protective. But that does not mean that you control the woman’s life throughout. Most of the time, it leads to an abusive relationship, both emotionally and physically.  Try and not to cross the thin line between a positive feeling of protectiveness and unhealthy possessiveness. If you feel that you are getting unduly possessive about your partner, here are some tips to keep it in check. 1) Check your attitude so that you don’t stifle your loved ones. 2) Apologize sincerely if you feel that you can salvage the situation. 3) Learn to trust. 4) Give each other space so that the relationship can grow. 5) You cannot force someone to be in a relationship and make them accept your...

Here is a Do It Yourself guide on what you can do to tackle different categories of men.  1) Miserly : If there is a chorus of disbelieving laughter whenever it is his round in the pub, it probably means he is tight with money. If every time you suggest a holiday, a meal or highlights for your hair, he shrugs his shoulder and says, “Well, if you want to throw your money away, then go for it.” Then he is mean and a king of sarcasm. FIX: Being cautious is not the same as a pathological fear of spending money. If he grew up in poverty or has struggled with debt, it may explain his concern. Sometimes it maybe psychological, like he doesn’t like the kind of money you have, or the freedom to spend it. It is best to go for counseling to find out what are his innermost feelings about money and you as a person. 2) Slob : He may be kind, gorgeous and funny but if he can’t be bothered to put dirty cups in the sink or take the trash out, it can be a deal-breaker fo...

When two people are in love, they are inseparable. All they want to do is to be together, spend every living moment in each other’s company. Well, that what we all believe how a perfect romance should be like. But lately experts in relationships say that overdose of anything are unhealthy. The extra closeness can lead to clinging to your partner and the results are damaging than strengthening it.   The intentions maybe good but it is not seen so. They are termed as being bossy and controlling. Here are some tips to help you understand how to give your partner space.  1) Allowing Him To Be With His Friends : He likes your company but he also wants to spend time with his friends maybe watch a game on TV with a couple of drinks. Excuse yourself and go out with your friends or indulge in some beauty therapy. Don’t stay with him and his friends. Spending quality time in a relationship is essential but allowing the person the freedom to be himself is also ...

It is important to remember who you were before you started dating. Don’t drop your friends, hobbies or lifestyle you had at the start of the relationship in order to fit in with your man. If he doesn’t share these, then there is no need to abandon them. If they fulfill you, keep them in your life.   1) Learn to be more self-reliant. Don’t ask your man to do things you are unsure about, whether it is changing a plug, calling room service or money matters. Even if you are unsuccessful the first time, it will reinforce your idea of yourself that you are an independent woman. It is only that you don’t give yourself the credit that you deserve. 2) Project your persona as independent by speaking for yourself rather than letting your man speak for both of you. 3) Do things you find emotionally or physically challenging. Building your confidence with activities will reinforce that you can cope even in a crisis and that you don’t need your partner to rescue you on a da...

When we fall head over heels with someone the world around us changes. Slowly as we get comfortable with the new love in our life and the relationship stabilizes, those same qualities are not always so adorable. You wonder why? Has he changed or is it me? The following test is designed by Paula Hall , a psychotherapist to find out what has changed in the relationship. To take this test successfully, make sure you are able to devote sufficient time for it around thirty minutes, without distractions and interruptions.  Next, take a sheet of make and divide the page into three sections.  In the first column, write down all the character and behavioral traits that attracted you the most. Some suggestions: Positive attitude, Affectionate, Caring, Well read. In the second column, jot down how you felt about those traits and how did you feel when you were together. Think of all such wonderful memories that made you smile. In the last column, ...

1) You feel excited around your partner. 2) You can confide anything to your partner. 3) It feels okay to say sorry when you in the wrong. 4) Your partner is your best friend. 5) You can be yourself without any pretense of being judged with your partner. 6) You feel blessed to find such a wonderful person in your life. 7) You don’t need to express your feeling about how you feel about him/her because he/she can see it in your eyes. 8) You feel life is really wonderful and you now know how to live it well. 9) You are ready to face anything in life because you have someone to watch your back. 10) When he/she completes you.

We all have ups and downs in life. Good days and bad days but that doesn’t mean, we give up on our lives. Similarly, couples do have disagreements and arguments but they also have to forget their differences and get back together. One argument doesn’t really mean the end of the role for that relationship. Here are some pointers on how to manage the rough patch in your love life:   1) Honor And Respect : Being rude and crass doesn’t justify your emotions or feelings. Sarcasm shouldn’t be directed towards the one you love. If you do not honor your commitment to her, she too will have no respect for you. 2) Jealousy-The Green Eyed Monster : Being possessive is understandable but being over possessive, if someone compliments your girlfriend can sometimes be blown out of proportion. Men are sometimes insecure too that some guy will steal his girl. So it is best that you discuss this issue with your partner and get reassured than a public outburst. 3) Pl...