Losing Your Identity In A Relationship

It is important to remember who you were before you started dating. Don’t drop your friends, hobbies or lifestyle you had at the start of the relationship in order to fit in with your man. If he doesn’t share these, then there is no need to abandon them. If they fulfill you, keep them in your life. 

1) Learn to be more self-reliant. Don’t ask your man to do things you are unsure about, whether it is changing a plug, calling room service or money matters. Even if you are unsuccessful the first time, it will reinforce your idea of yourself that you are an independent woman. It is only that you don’t give yourself the credit that you deserve.

2) Project your persona as independent by speaking for yourself rather than letting your man speak for both of you.

3) Do things you find emotionally or physically challenging. Building your confidence with activities will reinforce that you can cope even in a crisis and that you don’t need your partner to rescue you on a daily basis. 

4) Being with your partner all the time 24X7 creates dependence. Go out with your girlfriends, meet up with your family or go out on your own. It gives you a fresh view on things which you can share with your man when you reunite.

It is important to realize one’s potential rather than being a doormat and taken for granted. This way you will allow yourself to grow and mutually develop a better bond of equality rather than that of dependence.