Understanding Your Girlfriend during PMS

You truly love your girlfriend but you wonder what is wrong with her sometimes. If you ask her, she only gets defensive about it. Are you lost and confused? Well, don’t be. It is nothing but pre menstrual syndrome (PMS) which every woman goes through 7-10 days in advance before the onset of her menstruation. Each girl is different and so are her symptoms, some get emotional, others develop a voracious appetite or some have bouts of anger. Here are some helpful pointers to keep in mind so that you can be sensitive to her needs and sustain the love in your relationship.

1) Never Say The Word PMS: All hell will break lose if you say, “Honey, you are suffering from PMS.” It is a very touchy subjective so don’t say it loud. Assuming that her behavior is strictly due to her hormones, it will discount the possibility that her feelings are valid and will therefore only make her angrier. 

2) Keep Things Normal: During these days, your girlfriend maybe moody or depressed or even anxious. So avoid giving her unexpected surprises. Gifts and flowers are okay but something like a life changing surprises should be handled with care.

3) Keep Social Appearance Minimal: The hormones also affect her body. She may feel bloated, sore and uncomfortable. So don’t arrange get together or force her to go dancing. It is best to ask her if she feels up to it rather than deciding it and then dragging her along. She won’t be good company and make dampen your spirit. Many women gain weight during this time and if she is needed to dress up for some important occasion, rest assured she will have a hard time deciding what to wear. Understand her situation and be supportive. 

4) Don’t Be Surprised: Women love seeking out new varieties of comfort food during this time. They consume a lot of carbohydrates like chips, chocolates, ice creams and many more. Don’t raise your brows in alarm. If she complains of weight gain, don’t list out the number of cream filled donuts she gobbled; instead hold her hand take her out for a walk. Light exercising during PMS helps to improve her mood and she will love you for your understanding.

You could be one of the lucky ones who escaped with only minor inconveniences and slight adjustments during this time of each month. But there is always a chance that some of you may end up with someone who needs more care. But just remember, life is full of challenges and adjusting a little bit for the one you love is not asking too much.


-POI